This morning I've been coaching someone who finshed her PhD a few weeks ago and hasn't yet found a job. She was very upset at the start of our conversation and found answering my questions really hard because she wanted a job now and if I couldn't get her a job what was the point of talking.
Sometimes feeling stuck, feeling stalled is just too much and you need to take a break. A week off even a day off, simple food, fresh air, time with friends and plenty of sleep can make a huge difference because when we are exhausted everything is too much.
So if you feel its all too much, take a break, find a treat ( back to chocolate cake again) talk to someone about how you feel but mostly be kind to yourself for a day or two.
If it feels too much ......... it is ..... today . Tomorrow could be different.
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Thanks Dr Felicity,
It is very easy to feel overwhelmed, blocked, stuck or however we describe it for ourselves.
One powerful method is to acknowledge and accept the truth of that blockage from the person's point of view and then simply and quickly move on. It works!
Other: I can't [...]
You: I know, but if you could [...] what would you do?
That way of framing the problem seems to get beyond the blockage, and you can do this with yourself as well.
You: I couldn't possibly write next year's business in the next 3 or 4 hours
You Too: Sure, but if you could what would be in it?
That's a real example by the way, and while the detail was added over the next few weeks the plan had 95% of the important things within the first 2 to 3 hours.
If you try this, do let me know how you get on.
Thanks Abuja, I like your example very much and its true if we accept that whatever is keeping us stuck is an idea, just a habit many things become possible.
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