energy vampires again

Is another aspect of everyday life which encourages energy vampires text messages with no real purpose.

A recent client was feeling rather lonely although she said she had numerous friends. I asked her to describe her life as it might be when she had reorganised things so as not to be lonely. This describing the perfect life is a basic technique in coaching. It can be very hard to imagine how you would like your life to be but the more detailed the picture or plan the easier it is to orgainse the journey.

So in my client's lovely world she would make and receive numerous telephone calls so as to chat to her friends often. When she had lived like this previously she had felt energised and part of things even when she was sitting at home relaxing. So what changed ?

In recent months she has made very few phone calls and received fewer too because people send more and more texts. She doesn't find texts energising and in fact often felt drained by texts with no real message.

Texts are great for fixing times or explaining a delay but are they the same as a chat ..... not for this client. She realised that she preferred chatting and missed the short calls she used to make and receive.

Her session ended with the agreed action of making more phone calls and asking two or three friends to call not phone.

and I wait to hear if she feels less lonely after a month of phone calls