Avoid either or thinking

Another problem in the same areas as big goals or little goals is facing too many options or too much choice.

Sometimes when people start coaching with me at the next level they feel as if their way forward is completely blocked. Once they've created some small changes and begun to feel more of their own personal power, the challenge changes as they realise that there are many possible ways forward. Too much choice can be as difficult to manage as feeling there's no choce at all.

One of the problems with too much choice is feeling that if you choose A, B may turn out to be the best option after all. Sometimes this is a realistic awareness and sometimes its not. I think it helps to avoid "either - or" thinking; as in, " well I can either do this or I can do that."

Often we can feel better if we think, "I'd like to do this first but I could the do that second and that third." Or even, " I can do this and I can do that as well."

Its changing the way we think that can change the way we view the options available to us and that's a good start to any life changing journey.